In the farthest corners of the human soul is the insatiable longing to be wanted, desired, and loved. We all feel it. From the moment of conception until the expiration of life, however long or short that may be, we want to be wanted. As humans we instinctively go after anything or anyone that feeds this longing for attention. I myself can remember at an early age as being described as “boy crazy.” Looking back, I don’t believe I was crazy about boys but the idea of having someone that filled a void or maybe even masked a pain of a negative self-image. See my lack of self-worth started long before my pursuit of fickle unhealthy relationships. As small children we all seek for the greatest affirmation of love and assurance to secure our place in life. The affirmation of a father or father-figure gives credence to our existence. It is the foundation of every wrong or right decision, good or bad relationship that we allow to enter into our world. It’s one thing to realize you are in an unhealthy relationship, but the sanity is determined in how long do we remain in that unhealthy relationship. Let me put it this way, my love for fried fatty foods can be indulgent and pleasurable for a moment but a life filled with this sort of unhealthy pleasure will produce adverse results that may or may not be easier to put in than it is to take off.

There is an inner sanctuary lying listless and dormant in the deepest compartment of our soul. How we choose to adorn, fill and who we allow to occupy this sanctuary oftentimes reflect the condition of our heart and our outside reaction to dealing with the turmoil of life. It has showed up in your friendships or how we choose our friends. It has showed up on our job and how we handle conflict. It has even showed up in our marriage or marriages depending on which version of the story we are dealing with today, and then there are the children. See all of these people are innocent bystanders in our masterful game of life. How we enlist or dismiss their presence as it pertains to our own selfish gain makes them sometimes become casualties of war. The war which wages in our soul that began long before they ever showed up.

In this book I would like to ask you to allow yourself the opportunity to delve deep within and allow yourself to discover how all of your desires, whether misguided or calculated have derived from various forms of desperate pursuits. This desperation has produced various triggers of mixed emotions throughout your life. I want to show you how the desperation we often feel comes from God therefore should be spent on God. He is the author and the navigator of our soul and if we would catapult all of our desires on Him the seeking and the searching of our longing souls will cry out satisfied. Finally the pieces of this complicated puzzle will fit. The perfect match for the missing place in my heart will grow and as longing births desire then desire births pursuit; that pursuit produces intimacy with our Heavenly Father that no earthly relationship, no matter how perfect, will ever be able to match. Take this journey and discover the true source of our desperation.